David Cooper fue un médico psiquiatra nacido en Ciudad del Cabo (Sudáfrica), con nacionalidad británica. En Londres, fundó el movimiento antipsiquiátrico en colaboración con otros disidentes: Ronald Laing, Joseph Berne, Aaron Easterson, entre otros. "La reinvención del amor" es el capítulo IV de "La gramática de la vida".
En primer lugar, deseo establecer la diferencia entre amor y compasión. El amor es, fundamentalmente, a situation between two people, though, anyone can be included in several similar situations of two persons, while compassion can be extended to most people in the world and even encompass the cosmos. Love means total involvement and total commitment to the other, along with central sexual correspondence, although not necessarily exclusive. This is about love current version, version to be unstructured and then restructured. The current version of love and can not be sustained by virtue of its limitations.
The "feeling" of compassion is another matter. Compassion is not merely multiplied the love, not merely the love combined with piety is not merely a love apart. Compassion is a radical change of spirit that leads to the disappearance of personal violence and power, rather than reduce, their own revolutionary possibilities. It is certainly a universalizing in both mourn may feel like seeing old people on the street, "ugly", poor or mutilated, but generally only cry inside. Compassion is also a deep regret for the pain of another, even when the usual answer, unfortunately, is to feel secretly elevated to witness the suffering, which means more than feeling sorry regret. (Feeling sorry for someone is always destructive, self-indulgence is always identifiable, while the grief is the separateness of being.) Compassion, in this sense, is preconditioned by the presence of real love for others specific. But as I said before, there can be no compassion for the enemies of compassion.
Historically, very schematically we can analyze the love of tantra esoteric "indirect." Rather, we can not analyze it, because it is esoteric, but I can say that yoga sexual implies, temporarily, the total loss of one's mind "normal" in the state to which I referred to as anoia. [1] Here love set a repeated movement between being in our minds (Ennoia) and be beyond our minds (Anoia).
Platonic notion of love as the force by which the soul, awakened to the perfect beauty, is close to immortality was lost in the historical reality of Greek society by reducing the purely physical.
Christian love placed the love of Christ, that a remote-love above any other person present. Making love was venial, sinful, if it was blessed by a representative of Christ on earth. Inevitably, this "blessing" is entangled with the State, Law, Property and Money. The whole system became a punishment in a diffuse and malignant antithesis of love of which we speak and that we live now.
In courtly love, despite some moments of opposition, there was finally a submission to a hierarchy of power and reduction of love to a ritualized gesture.
in love Victorian, the emphasis on money reached its highest peak. The possession meant that the wife was transformed into wholly owned by the husband. Only in 1972, Austria-European power that sophisticated, "the position has changed slightly. Until now , if her husband moved from one place to another, the wife had to follow a risk of being eliminated as a person in society.
In the case of love in the bourgeois society of today, there is a mystification. Ultimately, it puts some emphasis on marriage remains legal and the monetary aspect in a more ritualized but very real. The fact that single people living together and having children is more or less overlooked in most bourgeois society, but it is often necessary to disguise it in various ways, so that one can never be entirely sure of his position. In any case, today the rule is to form the bourgeois nuclear family, this monstrous instrument of repressive state that in its very nature, presents situations of fear that deny love. Another hoax is revealed when we observe the dominant ideology of our times micropolitics that seeks to explain human experience: Freud's theory has nothing to say about love. Libido governs a territory that love does not dare to tread.
is of course the revolutionary love, love of comrades fight for the people and love the people, not a "people" abstract but people you know and with whom you work. When Che Guevara said that love was in the center of the revolutionary effort summed up the situation. For people like Che Guevara or George Jackson, love was the main driver of their struggle, and love them both killed. Love is associated with immense pride. Malcolm X, Carlos Marighela ... the list continues.
absence of direct revolutionary activism, communes provide the key to a new form of love. Share the sex, but only when there is an escape from work a central relationship between two people, and also make love sometimes in groups, between people who know and love each other without the impersonality of the orgy, showing the way to a love not jealous, not possessive, not facing the property; although sex is not shared, in any way essential to the commune . Shows what I have called The illusion of love quantification. If person A loves (and makes love to) the person B (which may be the constant partner A) and if A loves (and makes love to) the person C, the love of A and C does not reduce nothing to the love of A by B. The illusion is subtraction, loss. The form of operation in an ideal community agrees with this understanding. Everything is dirty, however, if the ratio of A to C has an aggressive intention against B, which in turn responds with some form of aggression against A and C.
I have often found that if a young man suffering from so-called problem of "primal scene", for example, gets into the bed in which they are an older man and a woman he has just made love, and that makes love the same woman (but only where this is acceptable to all participants), there is a great stress relief concerning the "father figures" and also an acceptable homosexual easing tensions, corresponding to the " fantasy of the young to the equation: "I am making love to this woman = he makes me love. "mutual fear can only produce negative shocks.
In fact, this has little to do with the mere intercourse (ie, with more limited aspect of the entire body component), but it is all love and demonstrate the acceptability of the "unacceptable" . In terms of love and sexuality can then be demonstrated in tangible terms, beyond words, that there is much less to fear than is generally believed. The "talking cure" can not meet this change of love and sexuality.
Community take another example of a couple with "serious sexual difficulties, whose central element was the fear of the girl being raped by her father, "of course" his wish that this happens. At that time, all commune members were making love. As the youngest of the couple was with another woman in the same room, an older man love him gently to his wife and then they all slept together peacefully. The next morning, the couple was grateful and they all hugged. Shortly afterwards had to go to another country (most of the communes in which I worked had a changing international population, helping to spread the Community idea) and decided to have a child ... with love. The biggest fear
of all has nothing to do with hate and aggressive acts. The greatest fear is to love and be loved. In the curious contortions of the mind, love is equated with madness. It feels like a total loss of self, which is equivalent to a feared madness. This is true of the act of love, even in times when the orgasm is not contained in experience. If by some sort of therapeutic experience, not necessarily professional (it is much less common in occupational therapy), we can learn to accept this loss with the knowledge I anticipated the return of the self, we are open to love. Love has been lost and must be re-invented. Love is a structure that has sido falsamente desestructurada a través del desarrollo de la propiedad como mediadora de las relaciones humanas. El amor sólo puede ser reinventado con una desestructuración de la falsa estructura existente, mediante un cambio en las relaciones de propiedad. Este cambio sólo puede producirse a través del desarrollo comunitario, o de pasos cuantitativos hacia la revolución cualitativa de toda la sociedad. Naturalmente, el desarrollo comunitario es sólo uno de los caminos que conducen hacia dicho cambio cualitativo. La represión nos obligará a crear otras estrategias y tácticas contraviolentas. En la mayor parte de los países del tercer mundo sería ridículo hablar de las comunas como un importante instrumento de lucha. Existen exceptions such as Argentina, but overall the violence of the oppressive system forces people to urgent and immediate counter-desperate. There is no significant prerevolutionary between oppression and revolution overall total. Of course there are already communities of various types in third world countries, but can not be oriented broadly toward the elucidation of the "inner life."
If we press the key to New Love, I think we find in the act of let the other be . This requires a learning control which can be very painful and, for all we know, many relationships break down because you can not let the other be. But be not a concept psychological, but ontological. Involves a change in our being, not a change in our mind. Not only is liberty the recognition of the need, but we must recognize the need to recognize freedom. It is paradoxical that one can have a total commitment to the central relationship and have both a relationship (and possibly sexual) by others.
A spiritual seduction body without sexuality can be a mystifying fundamentally. The former, in my experience, can be more devastating precisely because it is less obvious than physical sexuality, and more explosive results. By the way, does not allow the other to be. The spiritual seduction is not necessarily an intentional act, but a certain amount of it is almost inevitable in any community group. Whoever is the charismatic leader of the group at any time draw, inevitably, members of the opposite sex and his own. The danger is that the leader becomes complicit, knowingly or not, that attraction. If this happens, the group becomes sterile and unproductive, except perhaps for one or two lucky accidents. This is the case both externally oriented commune (macro) and those of internal orientation (being the ideal commune, of course, a synthesis of both orientations).
In short, love can only be re-invented by the abolition of the bourgeois nuclear family has been destroyed. The family should be replaced by communities in which sex is not considered private property. What in the bourgeois family life passes for love is nothing less than political reaction. In designating Castilian son-in-law to: family relationships are political legalized, and it is reactionary politics. The philosophical assumption that "human nature can not change", becomes an implicit family rule against change. A young man I met in England visited a psychiatrist because she was haunted by his mother more beyond all limits of possible acceptance. On the advice of the psychiatrist (after thoroughly investigating the case), the young man emigrated to Australia. They started in skydiving, and ultimate challenge to their desperation (masquerading as his death.) One day I was practicing free-fall dropping glimpse of her mother behind him. She opened the parachute, he was fortunate enough to to remember to do the same. Amar
love yourself enough to love another leads one to go beyond the pathos of the bourgeois family and pathos of the first attempts at training communes are now experiencing, to love the truth that lies at the other side of the revolution that we do.
again against all odds, decide to be optimistic. For love to be re-invented does not require a visible change in social attitudes, but a change in being, which then becomes socially obvious, I have experienced these changes in people, but they are quite rare, and are reflected as the transition from a way to be possessive to a just proud to live and not predatory relationships with full autonomy.
